Good Girlfriend

Don’t be too open in the very early days.

Easing into a relationship is about ensuring that there is plenty of space for the two of you to get to know one another and trust that you’re right for one another. If you try too soon to “make” something more out of your relationship than it already is, premature pushiness can scare them away and spoil what is ‘there’ to be a good thing. Instead, be patient and realize that it takes time to nurture a solid and enduring relationship.

Be honest.

While being honest to your partner is very important, to the point of being paramount, it is equally important that you are honest with yourself. If you overreact or make a mistake, you can acknowledge your error and apologize. If you’re feeling vulnerable or upset, you can sort through your feelings and verbalize them to them in a non-accusing way.

Speak your mind.

Don’t be afraid to make your desires, needs, and opinions known, even when they may conflict with your partners’. You don’t and shouldn’t exist solely to please them. Besides, showing that you are your own person with your own needs, desires, and approach to life will keep them interested in getting to know and understand you as a person. If you’re comfortable with speaking your mind, then they’ll be comfortable with speaking their mind, too.

Be yourself.

Don’t create a fake you just to impress them. It might be tempting if you think they’d prefer a different type of girl but usually this is just cobbling together snippets of things said or suggested and you’re likely to be wrong. After all, they want to date you, not some imagined form of perfection. And if you really feel tempted to change things about yourself because they insist that you’d be better thinner, taller, prettier, quieter, whatever, then it’s a good indication that you’re not compatible.

 

Birthday Surprise Ideas to Someone Special

1. Day of awesomeness

Turn someone’s birthday into a day full of awesomeness. Think of all the things they love (their favorite places to eat, things they like to do, or places you know they love to shop), and fill their day with it. Each stop could be a surprise, with the birthday-person being whisked from one thing to the next—or at the start of the day, you could hand them a full itinerary using our free printable birthday schedule. This could last for a day, a weekend, or a week!

2. Round-the-clock gifting

Everyone loves getting gifts, so why not keep that feeling going all throughout the day? You could give a birthday present once every hour (or every few hours), saving the biggest/best gift for last. If you’ve decided to combine this with the ‘day of awesomeness’ idea from #1, you could give a present related to each event you have throughout the day!

3. 12 days of birthday fun

It’s just like the Christmas song, but with a birthday present leading up to someone’s birthday. We originally saw the idea on Mother’s Niche, but thought that it would be really cool to do with a theme. For example, if your big birthday gift for someone was a weekend getaway to the beach, each smaller gift for the first eleven days could be a clue leading up to the big gift—a pair of flip-flops, sunglasses, or a bottle of suntan lotion.

4. Balloon avalanche!

Nothing says birthday like balloons! Surprise your kids, your significant other, or roommate with an avalanche of balloons as soon as they open the door. This is usually done while the birthday person is sleeping, but it would be pretty great for a surprise party, too! Or you could put a birthday present in a closet, and then fill the closet with balloons like Oh Happy Day, so all the birthday happy falls out when they open it!

5. Care package

Remember when getting mail was still fun (before all those annoying bills started showing up)? If you can’t be with someone on their birthday, bring back some of that postal joy by sending a birthday care package. Just think of all the things you’d bring along to celebrate if you could be there, add in a few nods to inside jokes, and ship them in a box!

Date Night Ideas

BE A LITTLE SILLY

“On one of our first dates, my guy and I challenged each other to a ‘triathlon’ of activities we both liked,” says Robyn H., 28, of Durham, NC. “We decided to compete in foosball, Pac-man, and pizza-eating. We were laughing the whole time, and now, part of the fun of ‘triathloning’ is coming up with three ‘events’ we can compete in. We’ve done ice skating, Connect Four, and M&M-eating, and another time we did swimming, diving, and onion ring eating.”

LEARN TO DANCE

If it turned Silver Linings Playbook‘s angry Pat (Bradley Cooper) into positive relationship material, just imagine what a class would do for your guy. Plenty of studios offer sessions for first-timers and couples, but if your guy’s especially intimidated, consider booking a private lesson to start.

HAVE BRUNCH

Friday night dinner can be crowded and cliché. Instead, trade carpooling duties with a friend, and spend a free Saturday at brunch (or just have it at home). While you can’t go wrong with eggs and mimosas, Leah Tinari, owner of New York City brunch hotspotFatta Cuckoo, swears by BLT tacos.

GO BACK TO SCHOOL

“We live in a college town, and we’re always scanning the school’s website to see what interesting, open-to-the-public activities it offers,” says Denver resident Jane S., 38. “We’ve seen cool authors speak, gone to shows of student work, and, I’ll admit it, get a kick out of strolling around campus and imagining we we’re still 19.”

SPEND THE NIGHT BY THE FIREPLACE

Admit it: Flames are sexier than CFL’s any day. Start a fire, turn off the lights, and talk with your guy until there’s only embers.

DOCUMENT THE NIGHT

Head to the pub around the corner, hit the coffee bar for dessert, or just grab takeout—but be sure to take plenty of fun, artsy or silly Instagram pictures. Not only will it create an awesome memory, but studies have shown that looking at photos of your significant other can make you feel even more connected to them, so find a favorite and print it out for your office.

VENTURE INTO THE KITCHEN

“We love Taco Tuesday and try different main meats and experiment with flavors,” says Chicagoan Erin G., 29. “It sounds simple, and we’ve got the prep-work down to a science, but because we don’t have to concentrate on the task at hand, we can really enjoy being with each other.”

How to Get Your Parents to Like Your Boyfriend

Talk to your boyfriend. Let him know what you plan to do. Introduce him to your parents when he is ready, it is him that is meeting the parents. Communication is key to all relationships, whether between the both of you or between you and your parents.

Introduce him to your siblings first. Sometimes if your siblings get along with him, they will put in a good word for you. If you have an older brother, talk to him about it. He is a guy and will most likely have insight to this, especially if he had to go through the ‘meet the parents’ phase with his girlfriend’s parents.

Talk to your parents. Try starting with your mom, she would be more sympathetic because she must have gone through the same thing when she was younger.

Suggest to your mom that she meet him before your father meets him. She might end up liking him. This way you have someone on your side.

Plan to have the meeting between your boyfriend and parents somewhere he is most likely to be comfortable with. A restaurant you both like is best unless he will be going over to your place. If he got along with your siblings, make sure he/she/they are there.


Prepare your boyfriend for when he does meet both your parents. Let him know your parents’ likes and dislikes. Let him dress up a bit, but make sure that it is not too much of a change from his usual style. Parents tend to be able to pick up on things like this. Besides, if he is going to be sticking around, your parents will notice his change of style

 

Tips On Making A Long Distance Relationship Work

Avoid excessive communication.

It is unwise to be overly “sticky” and possessive. You two don’t really have to communicate 12 hours a day to keep the relationship going. Many couples thought that they need to compensate for the distance by doing more. This is not true. And it might only make things worse. Soon you would get tired of “loving.” Remember: Less is more. It is not about spamming — you are only going to exhaust yourselves. It’s really about teasing at the right moments and tugging at the right spots.

See it as a opportunity.

View it as a learning journey for the both of you. See it as a test of your love for each other. As the Chinese saying goes, “Real gold is not afraid of the test of fire.” Instead of thinking that this long distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should believe that through this experience, the both of you will be bound together even stronger

 Set some ground rules to manage your expectations.

Both of you need to be clear with what you expect of with each other during this long distance relationship. Set some ground rules so that none of you will do things that will take the other party by surprise. For instance, are you two exclusive? Is it alright for the other person to go on dates? What is your commitment level? It’s better to be open with each other about all these things.

Try to communicate regularly, and creatively.

Greet each other “good morning” and “good night” every day — this is a must. On top of that, try to update your partner on your life and its happening, however mundane some of the things may seem. To up the game, send each other pictures, audio clips and short videos from time to time. By putting in this kind of effort, you make the other person feel loved and attended to.

Do similar things.

Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news and etc. to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same things, you get to have more topics in common to talk about. This is a good to create some shared experiences even though you are living apart.

Truths to Keep Your Relationship Healthy

Here are some basic rules of the relationship road that will keep you headed in the right direction

1.     Successful relationships take work. They don’t happen in a vacuum. They occur when the couples in them take the risk of sharing what it is that’s going on in their hearts and heads.

2.     You can only change yourself, not your partner. If you love someone and think that after a while he or she will alter behaviors you find uncomfortable, think again. If you want changes, put them on the table. so your partner knows what you need.

3.     All arguments stem from our own fear or pain. When upset occurs, check out what’s going on inside of you rather than get angry with your partner. Truth is that we usually aren’t upset for the reasons we think we are.

4.     Understand that men and women are very different. We’re not from Mars or Venus; we’re not even in the same solar system. Understanding and celebrating our differences will make living together more peaceful, interesting, and fun.

5.     Honor each other in some way every day. Every morning you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper by recommitting to your mate. Feeling respected and cherished by the one you love makes life much nicer.

6.     Anger is a waste of time. Anger is also a relationship killer, because it makes you self-absorbed and won’t allow you to see the good. If you are annoyed with your mate, give yourself some time to calm down and then gently discuss what’s going on for you.

7.     Get regular tune-ups. Go to a couples workshop, talk with a counselor, or read a relationship book together at least once a year. Even if you don’t think you need it, you will pick up a couple of ideas, and the process alone will strengthen your connection.

Traveling with Boyfriend!

Choose a destination you are both interested in

You probably have a wish list showing countries you would like to visit, and your partner probably has one, too. Or you may not have thought about it yet. Now it’s time to do so. This way you will find out which countries are most interesting for both of you and it’s easier to decide where to go!

If you do not come to terms during the first pass, don’t give up, you just have to go on. Each of you makes a list of 10 destinations you would like to go to together and then read it aloud. If there are no matches, make new lists.
It could also be helpful to list countries first and if you find some, both of you like, continue by going into detail – list regions or cities or as an alternative, list activities.

Plan thoroughly to avoid misunderstandings

As soon as you have decided for a destination, it’s time to start planning. It is really important to plan the first journey thoroughly to avoid misunderstandings.

Among others, you should talk about the following aspects und budget them:
– budget (details will follow)
– activities (as described before)
– cities or nature

Be guided by the budget of the lower income partner

Short reckonings make long friends and money should never be a topic to discuss in a relationship. To get a feeling for money und to avoid disputes, especially during the first vacation as a couple, it is essential to set a budget.

How much do you want to spend on the entire vacation?

If you do not earn about the same, you should discuss this topic early. The higher earner may prefer staying in four-star hotels whereas the one with the lower income would like to stay in a double room in a hostel.

Try something new

Don’t say no to everything just because it sounds stupid at first or feels somehow odd. It is important to compromise and to be open for anything new. That’s the good thing about a relationship. It motivates us every day afresh to dive into the world of the partner and to dry new things.

Relax

Although all these tips are meant serious and we have learnt a lot from each other, at the end of the day, we are just we and have a lot of fun. It is a good idea to have a plan. But at the end of the day you should just be yourselves, relax and see what the evening is up to.

Mistakes Women make in Relationships with Men

None of us are perfect. But it does not hurt to try to be better person. Many times we do mistakes unintentionally which can sometimes ruin our life and relationships. common mistakes girls make when they are in a serious relationship.

  • Being clingy:

Are you a clingy girlfriend? I don’t blame you, this is one major mistake many woman commit. I have even known girls who go to the extent of stalking their guys. If you are constantly around your man or talking to him always on phone, you need to stop.

  • Not giving enough time to the Relationship:

Girls want stability in relationships. They want relationships to end in the altar rather than break ups. Do not start talking about marriage and children too fast in your relationship. Allow things to take its natural course. Cherish your time together and do not rush your Guy demanding commitment from him in the initial phases of a relationship. Just try to be optimistic and enjoy your romance than worry about future.

 

 

Guys love attention too! Do things for your Guy. You may cook him a special dinner, arrange a romantic date, dress up for him (or dress down depending on the nature of your relationship), give him a surprise gift or do whatever you think he would like. Romantic gestures can play an important role in keeping your man happy. When your man is down or depressed, be his support and shoulder. Give him motivation or pampering when he needs it.

  • Being too controlling:

Allow your Man to make the first move. Men like to take the lead. Allow him to pursue you than the other way around. Let him initiate and plan the dates than you doing it from your side.

  • Comparing with Ex and talking of Past:

Many girls commit the mistake of comparing their current Boyfriend with their Ex. This is one of the best things a girl can do if she wants to chase the Guy away.

Steps to Build Good Relationship

#1.Try to join in activities that he likes.

If you hate basketball and he plays it, maybe join in by cheering him on at his games!

#2.Laugh with him!

Don’t be shy or act uninterested, that will make him feel really uncomfortable around you.

#3.Don’t overdo it.

If you’re trying to impress him, don’t go overboard with a ton of make-up and a whole new wardrobe. Sometimes boys notice the simplest changes!

#4.Thank him for gifts.

Don’t just tell him you like it, say thank you! It really does make him feel good!

#5.Hold his hand!

Don’t force him into anything, but casually grab his hand when you are walking together, etc, and then drop it. If he wants to hold your hand, he will.

#6.If he hugs you, hug him back!

Also, the occasional hug from you wouldn’t be so bad either!


#7.Respect it if he want to hang out with his friends, You should spend time with your friends as well!

Having a relationship doesn’t mean that you should be as close as twins.

#8.Don’t forget to be his best friend.

As his girlfriend you’re not just a pretty girl for him to fool around with and go on dates with, if you want a better relationship with him you have to be his best friend too. Watch his favorite TV shows, have inside jokes, support one another, talk about anything. The best part about being in a relationship with someone is having them also be your best friend, you want to date the type of person that can make a grocery trip just as fun as the bedroom.

Step to Take Before Start a Relationship

Forget “The Rules.” Stop believing “He’s just not into you.” In fact, skip all the self-help confusion that instructs you on how to morph yourself into the perfect match for Mr. (or Ms.) Right.

People who are genuinely happy with their romantic choices spend more energy working on their own self-development than on appearing a certain way to attract love. Instead of focusing on playing the game to entice a partner, put your focus on these five principles and, over time, the right match for you will present itself:

Understand yourself, sexually and emotionally.

If you have not done the work ofunderstanding yourself emotionally and sexually, you will enter romantic relationships from an emotionally dependent place. You may have the unrealistic hope that someone else will know how to understand you and make you happy—even when you, yourself, may not know. Directly communicating to your partners about your emotions and your sexual side is important; hoping others will intuitively perceive who you are emotionally and what you need sexually is a fantasy.

Make a conscious effort to become aware of your ongoing emotional reactions to the people and events in your life. Observe and label your emotional reactions. Reflect on your feelings and talk with people about how you feel or what you are noticing about yourself, without expecting them to put you back together again.

Believe what people show and say about themselves.

 It is common when attracted to someone to want to rationalize their poor behavior. If someone treats you with disrespect or chronically lets you down, take this as data about whom he or she is as a person. If you try to talk with someone and he or she dismisses you or rationalizes mistreatment of you, take this seriously; this may not be a suitable match.

If a man says he is not looking for “anything serious” or he needs a lot of “space,” let him go. This person is not in the same place you are and may not want the same things you want.Believe what people communicate about themselves. If they are acting immaturely or disrespectfully, or saying things that hurt you, move on. It is not your job to show someone a better way; it is your job to work on growing as a person.

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